Should be a good father or a good mother

The decision of parenting is one that has a great impact on life as we know, so first it is important to sit down and think and ask ourselves some questions, we can to help you discover if parenthood is something we want and for what we have the skills. Then I bring you other questions.

Questions about your family history can help access feelings that may be clouding our decision. Very often, penalties unrecognized and unresolved early loss gets in the way to make important decisions such as parenting.

- What you enjoyed being in childhood? What things you enjoyed? If you're having trouble deciding, if you want children, may have something to do with unresolved issues from your own childhood.

- What appreciate on how to be your parents? What aspects you did not do very well? Think about what you want to retrieve from your own childhood and what would you change.

- Was one of your parents or other family member who is seriously ill during your childhood? One or both of your parents died? You able to effectively cope with this loss? An unresolved loss of our children can get in the way when making important decisions, such as wanting to have children.

Other questions may be pointing to personal attitudes and values ​​that take our role as parents, also can help identify differences with your partner.

- What would you like to move from what your parents gave you? What would you like to spend? Focus and put into words what I think is important to take time to become a parent .

- What are your priorities for your children? For example, would you like to go to college? What values ​​would you like to have? All we become parents with a set of expectations, sometimes we do not comment . This question helps to elucidate the hopes and dreams for your children.

- What do you think about disciplining your children? Compare the answer with your partner. This is an area where parents usually do not agree. In discussing these issues now will prevent future problems, and give you the opportunity to talk about setting limits and how to do that.